I help brides and grooms put their relationship front and center.
I help people getting married during the sticky period between the day you got engaged and the day you walk down the aisle. Weddings create stress and conflict within relationships, so I work with you on optimizing your communication with your partner, prioritizing values, and creating a blueprint for building a marriage filled with meaning. In addition, I offer pre-marital counseling to make sure you and your partner cover all the bases before you walk down the aisle.
I also coach individuals. When your worries are taking over, I can help you find solutions. We can brainstorm ways to deal with friends and family who are creating problems. We can clarify your values to make decision-making less complicated.
what ELSE is wedding coaching?
Together, we identify what’s causing the most stress and come up with tailored solutions to help you deal with it. Wedding coaching gives you the tools you need to make your wedding as smooth as possible, including:
Tools for dealing with wedding anxiety
Premarital counseling, in case you’re not getting married by clergy (or if you are, and would like more)
Solving specific wedding-related problems
Giving you the communication tools you need to speak effectively with family, friends, and vendors
Prioritizing what’s most important to you in the planning process and coming up with a plan to put your priorities first
Coaching with your partner, family members, or wedding party to resolve conflict and help everyone get on the same page
I offer a free 20-minute phone consult so you can see if coaching can help you. Contact me to schedule an appointment.
i also love helping you solve the tricky nuts-and-bolts parts of getting to the big day, including:
Money
How do we decide on a budget?
My parents insist that since I'm the groom, my fiancée's family should pay for the wedding - but they don't have the money. Now what?
My parents insist on paying for the wedding, but they want total control. What do I do?
Planning 101
I'm so overwhelmed I can't even start. How do I begin?
I can't decide on a venue.
How on earth do I communicate with vendors when they ask me about my "wedding vision"?
Who will get a plus-one on our guest list?
I can't make a decision about a wedding dress and it's making me nuts.
I'm overwhelmed by options for the wedding invitations. Help!
The Wedding Party
How do I pick my bridesmaids?
Do I even want bridesmaids? (Or groomsmen, or best people?)
My maid of honor is taking over. How do I get her to stop while preserving the friendship?
My best man hasn't done anything for the wedding. I don't know how to talk to him about it.
Family
My dad wants me to wear a veil, but I'm over it. We can't see eye to eye.
My parents have taken over my wedding. How can I stand up for myself?
How do I deal with step-parents on the big day?
My in-laws are problematic. I love the person I'm marrying, but I'm concerned about their family.
Everyone is welcome here.
The language we have for getting married is still too cis- and heteronormative for my taste. I welcome couples of all gender identities, sexualities, and relationship configurations. I also recognize that the wedding industry often marginalizes people who don’t fit any number of pre-determined molds. I’m most interested in who you are and what kind of wedding and marriage you want. I affirm who you are and I honor your relationship.
Mainly, I’m excited that you're getting married.